What really fixes us?

We can never expect an external thing to fix internal problems.  

So often when people are having marriage problems, they have this belief that if we just had this or if we just accomplished that or if we just got this or just moved there, then the problems in our relationship will go away or be solved. Our marriage will be better when:

I get that promotion, We get out of debt, We move to a bigger house, I finish my degree, We make more money, We move closer to “home”, We have a baby, etc...

Houses are great. Promotions are awesome. Degrees are outstanding. Babies are amazing.  But the above solutions won't fix it.  They will not fix the distance you feel. They won't restore trust when trust has been broken. They won’t help you be more honest with each other. They won’t bring you closer spiritually. They won’t help you forgive. They won’t cause him to pursue you more. 

We can’t count on something external, whatever that something is, to fix an internal problem.

There are two things that will fix what is wrong with your marriage: Pursuing God & Pursuing your spouse

When you do those two things, you allow what is broken in your heart, in your relationship, in your soul to begin to find healing. You begin to move closer to God and closer to your spouse and in that process you begin to address the issues that you have rather than counting on a new house or a job promotion to cover those issues up.