Saturday, January 8, 2011

How's Your Marriage?

At the Jr. Pro basketball games today, I was asked this question.

How. Is. Your. Marriage.

Four simple words. Four simple, powerful words.

Do you know how few people have asked about our marriage during the last year or so? People ask how Jody's job is and how long he is gone this time, etc...People ask how I’m doing and to let them know if I need anything while Jody is away.

But asking about our marriage? That is so…personal.

But we need people to ask us the personal questions.

And others need you to ask them the personal questions. Your neighbor. Your co-worker. Your friend. Your boss. Your sibling. Your relative.

How are you doing today?
How did that make you feel when that happened?
What has been the hardest part of what you’re going through?
What scares you the most about the future?
What is getting you through this difficult time?
How is your marriage?

Ask the hard questions. Ask the personal questions. What’s the worst that can happen? They cry. They don’t answer you. They say, “Buzz off and mind your own business.”

Even if they say, "Buzz off" I have no doubt that they will be grateful that someone cared enough to ask.

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